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There are so many of us who are past childhood and now live more or less independently, with college, jobs, dating/marriage, social obligations, and domestic life on our plate. Do you have any life skills tips or tutorials that you can share with fellow adults on the spectrum?
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You know I was just telling my wife, you should have a section on aspie biographies. If you ever do, I’d like to put together a post w/pics about our daughter Summer. I think Aspies are misunderstood and we should do everything we can to help people understand that this is a real condition that has to be addressed and discussed. I think I finally convinced her school that social skills were the #1 thing we wanted help with on her IEP. Its more important than math, or fine motor skills.
Do you feel her school has interventions for her? Some schools seem to have extra interventions for social skills, while others just focus on doing what they can to help a child do well academically. Their comment about tech and IT made me wonder.
There are some great books available about how Aspergers is different in girls, and how girls develop different strategies to cope and fit in socially. For example, girls are better at mimicking higher ranking peers or adults, and those who can do this have better outcomes socially.
We’d all love to hear about Summer in a guest post. I’ll email you soon about setting it up!
Ack, I’m having trouble with the simple math in the spam filter, haha!
I like the bios idea and looking forward to the life skills tips! Tips for those with partners on the spectrum is another idea … not sure whether Husband or I have more spectrum characteristics but I am sure we both have some.
janny226’s last blog post..Does Your Child Know His/Her Dx?
Right now, they have a woman assigned to help facilitate play at recess four days a week. They have a once a week, 1/2 hr session w/her on behavior stuff and she meets 2 times a week with a SLP to work on pragmatic language and how it relates to social skills. She also has twice a week fine motor skill help. I’m really happy with what they came up with this yr. She was born at 26 weeks, 1 lb 14 oz, on O2 for a yr and had a host of developmental delays and health issues related to her lung disease. Today, she is healthy but has social skills issues, fine motor problems, and a math disability. She was just diagnosed this year “officially” but we’ve known of the issues since she was 2ish. Oh, and she has ADD. Its crazy, the team of psychologists actually wanted us to put her in “the most restricted environment”. This would have been a huge mistake.
thisclose to getting rid of the math spam. I didn’t realize I’d have to do it too!
Great point, Janny! This is why we high-functioning adults need peer support. I wanted to try a new pub recently, and my husband warned me about the noise and crowds he saw while walking by. Most young people would think “beer! music! fun!” but R knows what that means for me.
I would like to hear about coping with stress after having to be in a social situation. I avoid them, but sometimes have to interact with a gaggle of NT women. The stress ahead of the event and after leaves me lost for days.
“Gaggle” describes it exactly.
Yes, if you’ve ever met a flock of geese–they cackle about nothing and hiss at outsiders. I always expect someone will get pecked to death at those meetings.
Son just came home, the math spam is first-grade level. Just so we all know where we’re at! (more like where our heads are at — when I am writing a comment I am probably left-brain and math is right-brain, right?)
Anyway — agentwool, can you plan something rejuvenating for yourself the next day after you know you must encounter the/a gaggle??
And your comment makes me wonder if the reason why I’ve finally found a good group of friends is because they’re the moms of the kids with a dx like my son’s… so these women are less gaggleish than most.
janny226’s last blog post..Does Your Child Know His/Her Dx?
I don’t do groups at all. One adult in the room at a time is about all I can interact with. Hard to explain, but I kind of signed up for a life where doing anything calming is challenging. Hubby is making me a map to memorize so I don’t get lost going to the meeting and I will do my best to imitate wallpaper while there. Just wishing for a magic bullet.