Comments on: Learning To Say “So What”

By: Bonnie Sayers (autismfamily)

Bonnie Sayers (autismfamily) — Mon, 04 Jan 2010 00:23:24 +0000

I was referred to this post from a fellow twitter user through FB as I had a hard time today on twitter and taking a break from the site. Please keep in touch as I want to hear of your community outreach plans since Lori (hollyrod4kids) and I want to do something similar in Los Angeles.

By: RtPt

RtPt — Sat, 18 Jul 2009 04:50:28 +0000

I used to let little thing spin out of control...and I still have some moments, but nothing to the degree I used to... My phrase to myself is "Life is too short." It is important to pick what is important to spend our energy on. RtPt’s last blog post..RtPt: An important person died unlike the other two the other day...

By: janny226

janny226 — Wed, 27 May 2009 20:27:32 +0000

I've thought of "so what" several times since your post. It's been helpful in calming myself. janny226’s last blog post..Twin Day Success

By: Chris

Chris — Wed, 27 May 2009 20:20:23 +0000

Hi, AspieTeacher,

I’m guessing that your name is Sandy?

I’m really glad that you’re finding this helpful, and I’m really glad you’re suggesting alternatives that are similar and also helpful.

Regardless of whether you call it “So what”, physical relaxation, meditation, or self-hypnosis (which I’ve heard helps other aspies), I think that anything that calms us down (and I think all of these things can) will help us a tremendous amount.

They won’t make our stressful situations go away. But they very definitely will help us to cope with them more effectively.

Thanks for mentioning this.

Chris (cmaspt on Twitter)

By: Sandy

Sandy — Wed, 27 May 2009 18:36:15 +0000

I’ve had a few opportunities to try this strategy out since posting it. If you’re someone who has a hard time connecting the words “so what” with the emotional release, you might find meditation helpful because it helps you focus your energy on “letting it go”.

By: Chris

Chris — Sat, 23 May 2009 17:36:16 +0000

Hi, Aspieteach,

This is a great article.

I’ve done something a little different, but I think very similar and really related, for years. I’ve practiced physical relaxation. When you think about this, I think it’s very similar to saying “So what”.

I think if I had to give up every single coping skill I’ve every learned in all my years of training, therapy, counselling – you name it – and I could keep one and only one skill, I think it would be the art of physical relaxation.

At first it was hard. Now, I find myself doing it probably once every minute or so. It’s almost like medication without the drugs or side effects. And, I find it helps me calm down and cope much more effectively in a much wider range of situations I find myself in.

It’s also good for making me feel relaxed and happy!

Thanks for this blog post, and for the link to this great article by Gerry Newport.

Chris (cmaspt on Twitter)

By: janny226

janny226 — Sat, 23 May 2009 01:44:45 +0000

That's a great article. I have to re-read it to even have a more thoughtful comment, I'm, like, "Uhhhh... yeah. Agree with him." I have a terrible fear of failure and need to say "so what" more often, and my son could certainly stand to learn it as a technique. janny226’s last blog post..Twin Day Success