Socializing gets harder after college. Something I hear often is that making friends (true friends, that is) was much easier in college. Usually said with a wistful expression.
Sure, you can meet people through work, happy hours, alumni get-togethers, etc. Those aren’t the best place to make friends, though. Work acquaintances are often your competitors and never quite have your back the way college buddies do. For a variety of reasons, aspies aren’t likely to make a lot of new friends at bars/happy hours, as the sensory input might distract you too much.
So if you’re in college, take every chance you have to make new friends and reinforce the friendships you have! You have the rest of your life to stay in and be alone if you want, but if it’s at all possible, spend this time with your friends even if it means going out a little when you don’t want to.
ETA: This is not to say that you shouldn’t go to the happy hours/alumni get-togethers! They have their purpose and can be fun.
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Socializing gets harder after college? It’s been hard enough for me in college! -_-
Sorry to break it to you.
I take that back; there are people who have a wild time after college too and meet lots of people, make lots of friends. They’re pretty likely to have been on the more social side in the first place, though. Either sorority/fraternity or just have a well-established hobby or niche. Still takes more work though.